If you're a survivor who needs help, please contact us at

587-575-7000 or therapy@cc4ms.ca

Upon doing so, you will be contacted within one business day to set up an intake assessment and arrange for you to receive counselling. Limited financial assistance may be available.


   

“The brave man is not he who does not feel afraid, but he who conquers that fear.”

Sheldon Kennedy

“If you’re not in denial and you face what’s really hurting and get at the problem, you deflate its power.”

“I really didn’t want to go there, I was terrified. But when I was there, in that environment with that group of people, I knew that I wasn’t alone. I knew that I could do this here, something I couldn’t do even in front of my family. Then as soon as it passed, I was so relieved.”

“Hope is being able to see that there is light despite all of the darkness.”

“Healing takes courage, and we all have courage, even if we have to dig a little to find it.”

“I’ve learned that courage was not the absence of fear, but the triumph over it. The brave man is not he who does not feel afraid, but he who conquers that fear.”

Theo Fleury

“When it comes to people who are on a path of healing, I say bravo — Welcome to the wonderment of finding yourself. It’s the greatest journey you’ll ever take in your life — the one of self!”

Theo Fleury

“If you fell down yesterday, stand up today.”

H.G. Wells

“In the middle of difficulty lies opportunity.”

Albert Einstein

“A problem well stated is a problem half solved.”

C.F. Kettering

“I feel very blessed.”

Sheldon Kennedy

“No matter what your ability, you have more potential than you can ever develop in a lifetime.”

Anonymous

“The future belongs to those who believe in the beauty of their dreams.”

Eleanor Roosevelt

“Abundance is not something we acquire. It is something we tune into.”

Wayne Dwyer

“Life is a field full of possibilities for everyone.”

Deepak Chopra

“My message is really about hope and that you’re not alone”

Sheldon Kennedy

“Education is the most powerful weapon which you can use to change the world.”

“Love is the great miracle cure. Loving ourselves works miracles in our lives.”

Louise L. Hay (born 1926)

“Don’t hold on to anger, hurt or pain. They steal your energy and keep you from love.”

Leo Buscaglia (March, 1924 - June 1998)

“To ease another’s heartache is to forget one’s own.”

Abraham Lincoln

The greatest healing therapy is friendship and love.

Hubert H. Humphrey (May 27, 1911 - January 13, 1978)

 
 

1 in 6 men

are adult male survivors of childhood sexual abuse (AMS of CSA).

 

We all know survivors.

   

cc4ms is committed to being a world-class, dedicated treatment centre with evidence-based, holistic programs for adult men who have been raped and traumatized as children.

 

Currently, this is achieved through individual and group counselling. Limited financial assistance may be available...


 

You can help!

 

cc4ms needs to provide funding for survivors who require financial assistance.

 

The cost for one session is $180. Your donation, whether it be singular or monthly, will help a survivor achieve healing.

 
I want to help a survivor!

Donate your Big Vehicle!

Big Vehicle We will arrange for your big vehicle to be towed free of charge to either a salvage or recycling company – which ever has offered the best price for your wreck.

 

If you have a big vehicle that you would like towed away, contact us to make arrangements!

bigvehicles4survivors@cc4ms.ca

 

Upon receipt of salvage payment, cc4ms will send you a Tax Credit Receipt.

 

Your generousity to us will be recognised on our website and in other ways!

           

CANADA CRISIS HOTLINE

If you need help right now, please contact Canada Crisis Line.

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SURVIVORS AND THEIR SIGNS

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What is male sexual assault?

 
  • Any non-consensual act of sexual coercion and/or domination which threatens someone’s physical and/or psychological well-being.
  • Physical force is not essential. Non-consent may be due to threats, coercion or altered states of consciousness, such as intoxication or ‘rape drugs.’
  • Coercion may be in the form of threats of harm to a person’s physical, emotional or financial well-being.
  • Unwanted sexual touching, oral or anal contact, is sexual assault.

Things to Note:

      • Even if a man has an erection or ejaculated, it is still sexual assault.
      • Perpetrators can be male or female. If a heterosexual man is assaulted by a man, this does not make him homosexual.
      • Male perpetrators are not necessarily homosexual; in fact, the majority identify as heterosexuals.
      • Gay, bisexual and two-spirited men can be sexually assaulted by strangers, friends or even partners — just like straight men. Assault has nothing to do with sexual orientation.

How to Help:

      • Help him find a place where he feels safe.
      • Listen to him and believe him.
      • Reassure him that the assault was not his fault.
      • Respect his decisions. They are his to make.
      • Encourage him to seek help from a professional.
      • Let him know that he is not alone.
      • Be aware of your own feelings about men who have been sexually assaulted.
      • Know your limitations and be clear about how much support you are able to offer.
      • Seek support for your own feelings and reactions.

Strategies For Dealing With Flashbacks

Stop what you are experiencing (if possible). For example, stop playing the music, stop the car, stop reading, etc. What is happening? Calm yourself so that you can experience grounding and sense of boundaries (e.g. Talk to yourself, take a few deep breaths, or go to another room.) Affirm and reorient yourself to the present through the five senses. What do you feel, see, touch, hear or smell in the present? (e.g. I am with my partner in my home. I am an adult, not a child that I feel like in my flashback. I can hear reassuring words from my partner.) Take Action How do you interact or not interact with this experience (trigger) in order to feel safe? (e.g. Talk to your partner, call a friend, speak with a counsellor, focus on being in the safety and security of the room, take time to draw or write in a journal, or remove self from the situation such as not watching the movie on abuse.) –From: Maltz, W. (1991). The Sexual Healing Journey: A Guide for Survivors of Sexual Abuse. New York: Harper & Row.